I am working on the finances now, and will be talking to a lawyer this weekend to get advice on custody, separation agreement, etc..

I have started working on a calendar and a Plan B letter... but your link helps a lot.

I'm not sure about who to use as an intermediary yet as her family is all so blind.

I have read up on plan B on here.

I haven't set a time yet to complete all of this and give it to her. I will have a very busy time at work the next week, so I'll be kinda of dark during that time anyway.

I noticed this morning that she had been on facebook... just read her incoming. No new outgoing, but she could have deleted. She was on at 5:00 AM and her status was changed to "I wish I were sleeping". So she is having some trouble... or she was on the phone with OM for a long time.

Still no word about BIL... I'm sure I made things worse for all of us in that regard, but in the end it won't matter.


BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.

Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.