Unless I can think of someone better, I will talk to her. She is probably the most neutral person... she is a much stronger friend with my WW... but she has respect for me and her main interest is in her son and our boys.

When I've finished a plan B letter, I'll also post on here. Not sure when that will be... but soon.

Is there anything else... I'll check off my todo list...

- discuss with lawyer to ensure I protect myself financially and for custody.
- make any necessary changes to ensure finances are in order.
- create a visitation calendar... or some method that will work.
- choose an intermediary.
- write a Plan B letter and post it here for review.
- Have a clear list of boundaries that will protect me and my sons for the future. Have an clear understanding of what and only what I will accept before reconciliation.
- write another letter telling her how much I miss her and wish she was here with me...that I would die without her (Just kidding)
- enjoy life. enjoy time with my sons. continue to work on me.
- have unbreakable and confident faith.

Have I left out any important details?


BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.

Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.