- write a Plan B letter and post it here for review.
- Have a clear list of boundaries that will protect me and my sons for the future. Have an clear understanding of what and only what I will accept before reconciliation.
- write another letter telling her how much I miss her and wish she was here with me...that I would die without her (Just kidding)

All of that would go into the Plan B letter. It should be a love letter telling her

- you are sorry for your part in the state of the marriage

- that you are ending contact with her

- that in order to resume contact, she must end her pursuit of adultery and demonstrate a willingness and committment to CARE for you as a husband

In it, tell her that all PERTINENT contact is to be channeled through XXXXX [your designated intermediary] unless an emergency. In it, specify that the children are not to be exposed to any of her paramours.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101