Thank you, Noodle.

Exactly the kind of response I was hoping for... a challenge.

I do know that I did the right thing. It just hurts to see the kids hurting. My WW told me my son cried all night and the next day after I told them. I know that my son was not crying because I told him, but because of what my WW has done... and she doesn't like that. But I still don't like the hurt he is going through... and my telling him helped it hit home.

Most people who stand up for what is right will often get punished for it... but you are correct. I must stand up against adultery... which is why I sent the email to BIL.

My W says that "I" did irreperable damage by sending that email. Doesn't anyone see that the adultery is doing the damage???

I am holding on with fingertips to black and white...sometimes it's difficult to hold on when you're used to compromising grey colours. I will continue to hold on.


BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.

Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.