I probably did a stupid thing last night at the end of my conversation with WW.

After she was denying everything and telling me I had misread everything and I was wrecking any chance we had being friends. I said to her, "by the way, you can change the password on your facebook... it is too hurtful to read... (I won't give the details here) about what you want to do to him."

She has changed the password, so I have lost my way of spying. But I have enough proof to show it wasn't just a friendship... and looking at all of that was too hurtful. I was obsessing again and I don't need to see it. It doesn't change anything at this point. I will be going dark very soon... after we have met about the arrangements.

What it did do, though, is make her very uncomfortable knowing that I do know the truth.

Still.... it was probably a mistake. I can't change it now.


BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.

Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.