Ok...please remind me again why it was a good idea to expose to my sons.

No need to remind you... your son already did....

My son did tell me yesterday that he was glad he knew. before knowing he had so many questions that were not answered. now he can understand why we are separating.

You did it for them. Period. Not to hurt her. It became apparent that her actions were directly affecting them in ways that were confusing and harmful... and they needed to know the truth.

Shaden, you know I'm a card carrying member of the anti-exposure league, right? Even I think you did the right thing by telling your kids.

Your younger son's reaction is troubling, though... Bottling everything up and trying to smooth it all over. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> May I recommend the book "The Truth About Children and Divorce" by Dr. David Emery? Even if you don't end up D'd... the book may help you get inside your son's head and figure out ways to help him through this.

I just said that I hope he still loves his Mom.. he said yes... that they are close and always will love her.

The defense rests, your honor!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

"I require more from my spouse than behaving well in order to avoid pain." (guess who)