Noodle, you said...

"Will you obey God on this issue or will you not?"

I want to obey God... the problem is in knowing what he is telling me to do.

The past 2 years I thought I was doing what I was supposed to do. I kept getting the message... "patience". I felt I was supposed to love my W and let her heal in her own time. I now know that I was mistaken. Sometimes faith requires action. So now I am acting. But how does one know when enough action has happened and when we are to stop and be patient... waiting on God?

My problem is not in the willingness... I have been willing all along. It is in getting differing messages and being unsure. As soon as I know what to do or what is right... I get off the fence pretty quickly and it becomes black or white. My problem is always seeing the other side and wondering if that is the right side. My judgement sucks.

BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.

Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.