Marsh...

I see your point about educating. I understand and agree.

thanks for your prayers.

I am good at being the nice guy and knowing how to be kind. But now I'm heading into uncharted waters for me. I have no clue how to act right now before Plan B is in place.

I did stand up and say that the boys will be playing hockey as I felt it was important for them. I said that I would be doing everything I could to get them there when I have them. My WW wanted to skip this year because she is too busy now with her second job. She wouldn't have to have a 2nd job if she kept our family together.

I'm just not so good at cutting through fog-battle. In the past I've always become defensive or angry or I've been the one apologizing. This time I wanted to show something different. But I still LB'd.

Any advice on what to do between now and Plan B? I don't know what Plan A looks like in the midst of a separation and her Affair.


BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.

Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.
FAITH REQUIRES ACTION!