Plan A is where you begin to lovingly detach from her, (CLICK HERE TO READ BR'S THREAD ABOUT DETACHMENT) while you try to meet as many needs of hers as you can.

It is also a time where you expose.

Carrot and the stick.

FYI: There have been others here who have worked a great Plan A while separated from their cheating spouses.

I have been contacting my lawyer and will be going hard through him. I was all set to settle with my W tomorrow night and then go dark... but now I have to wait until lawyers settle everything... that could take a while.

Why would you need to stay in Plan A any longer than you want to if your lawyer is going to settle your legal matters?

You can go dark while he does what he needs to do.

~ Marsh