So, what I would like to know is who really believes that an FWS can resolve to never have an affair again because the consequences were so great the first time? Do you think consequences stop people from doing things?

IMVHO it is not the consequences that will make a difference.

If you are punishing you will lose the WS/FWS. So recovery will probably not be an option.

I think it is a reallignment of the WS/FWS Conscience that has more effect.

Conscience is an ability or faculty or sense that distinguishes whether our actions are right or wrong. It leads to feelings of remorse when we do things that go against our moral values, and to feelings of rectitude or integrity when our actions conform to our moral values. It is also the attitude which informs our moral judgment before performing any action.

Learning that an Affair, under no Circumstance, is acceptable. Then not being able to justify it using a skewed conscience that suits a persons want to stray.

I don't think a consequence can fix a twisted conscience.

BS 38
FWW 35
D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby

When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.