Keep coming back here and checking with what you are working on with respect to your Plan. This is about you and what you want to do. I am not an expertise in that area of organizing a plan. Mimi and so many others are WAY more knowledgeable.

You are trying to save your M for the kids?

BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09