LA: Thanks for hanging in with me. I know I am not always the most cooperative "patient". My problem has never been making deposits. It is the fact that I make even bigger withdrawals by (i) desiring sex, (ii) wanting her to control her spending, and (iii) being angry - and letting it show - when she doesn't. I have the funny, smart, entertaining part down pat. It is the strong, tough, dependable, self-reliant part I need help with.

Bubbles: Did another drive by today. Mrs. Hold called to ask about party stuff. At the end I said "I was thinking reverse cowgirl, what do you think?" She replied "you'll have to educate me." I explained. She said "that is easier when one is slightly lighter." I said "well you are more than slightly lighter, you are lots lighter." Left it at that. I view that as a positive exchange. Keep it short and sweet.

Of course, I don't have any expectation of DOING reverse cowgirl anytime soon (I don't expect any sex at all anytime soon). But it seems your idea about drive by comments is working. Thanks sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much.