That's because you have lost all your love for her. You stayed married too long, and your lovebank is not depleted, it's ripped to shreds and burned in efigy (sp?).

You waited too long to take action, and now you'll probably never get that love back.

She needs to know that.

The ONLY way I see it is if she once again fears you divorcing her, and gets her rear in gear and works on herself.

But she'll never do that unless you tell her you no longer love her and want to leave. (probably a dozen or so times might sink in to her head)