Originally Posted By: holdingontoit

That is my essential dilemma. I am not trying to achieve happiness for myself.


How come?

Hold, I want to apologize for my unkind post yesterday.Of course I do not wish your marriage to go down-hill faster. You have enough problems and you certainly don't need me bashing you on an internet forum. It's just that we are all finding it very difficult to accept your decision, which is "I know I can - but I will not help myself".