HOLD and Telly, it may help to literally BEND OVER.

When I was getting flack from my abusive boss years ago and some of the other gossipy co workers, I started to become depressed because I needed that job and was losing what little self esteem I had left to leave the bad job and get another better one.

I went home one day and "bent over" and yelled for them to #@$@%me one more time! Then I began yelling, "One more time and I am outta here!" Etc.

I yelled and screamed for a while in my empty house,, and then something changed within me and I was able to hold it together and apply for another job. I got the position (because I ASSUMED the position) and was better off.