brett,

Focus on meeting each other's emotional needs (while avoiding love busters, things you shouldn't do), spending time alone together, and doing things that make each other happy when you're both together and you'll get through it. We all build up associations, just like Pavlov's dogs. If you are happy when you are together you'll associate being together with being happy. You won't forget what happened but newer, happier memories with your wife will eventually become more important.

Although most betrayed spouses on this site seem to want to talk about what happened and want to know every little detail, not everyone is wired that way. My husband didn't want to know any details of what I did, and the last thing he wanted to do was talk about it. We've spent very little time talking about it at all, but it's been two years and we're very happy together now. So if you don't want to talk about it, then don't. The most important thing is that you learn to fall in love again with each other.

Of course it's also important that your wife not repeat any behavior that might lead her down the wrong path again - so if you see any of that, then you'll need to talk about it. But otherwise, just focus on rebuilding the love.