When was your marriage good and when was she faithful? How were things just before you deployed?

My concern with your situation is your history. There has been a lot of separation, infidelity from the start, and not a whole lot there to build on in terms of good history.

The nature of the beast with a deployment is that you're gone so "out of sight out of mind."

When do you rotate home so you can Plan A in person?

I know you haven't been thrilled with my advice. Doesn't mean I don't want what is best for you.