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Originally Posted by princessmeggy
OMG Marsh, that was awful!! What was worse was that girl just stood there and took it. Man, I wanted to throw something at the screen! LOL

LOL I know! I'm right there w/ you!

Obviously it wasn't the first time he's done it to her.

My gosh!

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Well hrmph, apparently MB isn't too APO friendly. They say they'll contact me with details about shipping\billing. Hopefully they contact me via email...

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That's right, Gerk. You better walk the line or I'll be all over you. wink

Seriously, just read that guy's two threads (the first one was about his WW's affair with her coworker). He has done absolutely nothing for himself. He is the poster child for BS meekness. I was this close to telling him he needed to get off his vagina and do something.


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FWW - 33
Married 8/31/03
No kids (but 3 cats)
D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA)
NC agreed to - 11/8/06
NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07
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Well hrmph, apparently MB isn't too APO friendly.


I use Amazon.com... never had any issues with them shipping to an APO...

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Oh, I was buying straight from this website... Think I can get a digital version? That would be way faster.

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I found the eBook version.

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Which book are you looking for? Audible.com has "His Needs, Her Needs".


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In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists. Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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I haven't checked for the digital book...

Another good book that our MC suggestd was "Torn Asunder" by Dave Carder...

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Sadly my audible.com account has been hijacked by my WW, so I can't buy any new books, nor access any of the books I've bought previously. frown

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Gee, I wonder if W is projecting when she has these "feelings" that you might destroy her property?

Seeing as that is exactly what she's done to several of your accounts.

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Originally Posted by Gerkaguards
I'm feeling more and more detached from this situation. I think this MB "system" is making me feel that way. Like I'm not in the situation, but above it, controlling it, watching her follow a script. It just doesn't seem so personal anymore.

GG:

I think this is the thing that is most important. It doesn't help that you are 7k miles away, but the personal will come. But you ARE recognizing who is in control.


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Just got this from WW:
My dad has terminal lung cancer, so all your games are just lovely. Do whatever you want (Gerka), I don't care anymore
Sent via BlackBerry by AT&T

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My response:
I'm so, so sorry baby. Is there anything that I can do for you, or your family? Is there any way to get him covered by our insurance? Would you like me to call you this evening (your evening)? Like I said before, I'm here to love and support you as best I can. I'm your husband, and I want to take care of you and be there for you.

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She wrote back:
And, please don't try contacting them, they don't want to hear from u
Sent via BlackBerry by AT&T

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She also wrote:
U could support me by signing the papers, other than that I have no desire to hear from u ever
Sent via BlackBerry by AT&T

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Wow, that sucks!

Do you think she just got this news today, Gerk?




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My reply:

Why would they not want to hear from me? I've never been anything but
nice to them, tried to help them when I could and be a good son in
law.

I'm not signing the papers. I am your husband, and you are my wife,
and there's nothing that's happened between us that can't be worked
through. I'm committed to this marriage, and to you and that's not
going to change. I'll call you this evening around 2130 your time.

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Send a card to your InLaws.

Do what you would do if you had a GREAT Marriage.

Doesn't matter if SHE gets upset.

And you don't have to tell her you did it either.

And, hey, how about that "Leave me alone stuff"... 3 texts in 5 minutes...

Keep it light, but firm.

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When it rains it pours, doesn't it. I don't know what there is to say.

As bad as this is, this may be a very good opportunity for plan A. You need to rack your brain for all the things you can possibly do (and even some that are impossible) to help her and her family through this. Whether it be the insurance, sending care packages, or even going home, you have got to be her pillar that helps get her through this dark time.


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FWW - 33
Married 8/31/03
No kids (but 3 cats)
D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA)
NC agreed to - 11/8/06
NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07
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Hey Gurka,

Is her father still married to her mother? If so, I'd send an e-mail to your MIL ASAP!!!

Let them know that you are there for them and ask them if there's anything you can do...

My WW-radar is going off and it sounds like this might be an attempt to manipulate you. How is your signing the divorce paperwork even relevant to the fact that her dad has terminal lung cancer???

Semper Fi,

RIF

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