I will say that if she doesn't contact you with condolences for the loss of your fellow soldiers and to see how you are doing, aside from your marriage, that she isn't worth spit. This goes to the core of what kind of person she really is. If she can't venture out of her own selfish world, I say you would be far better off without her. I think you would be much better off finding someone who has some depth of character. I know that this might hurt you by saying it, but that's my opinion.