Jerka

"Even if I go back to Fort Polk, she's not there. And as far as I know, she's told me not to come see her, doesn't want to see me, etc. So there's no difference between being here and being @ Fort Polk, aside from I'd be in danger of having a divorce forced on me."

WW told you not to call or send her emails.

And what have you been doing? Contacting her.

It was a mistake to extend your stay. All you did was give your WW and OM more alone quality time.