Like I said, anything that is so important to u that it is worth straining everything even more over it u can keep.

To which I would reply, "GREAT! They say possession is 9/10th of the law anyway. Have a NICE life."

Not really, but your WW just gets my goat.

Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists. Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story