Go home and tell your wife about that conversation.

Tell her you really do want her to work and pay back what she stole from the family. How much you'd like to see a separate account for her paychecks to go into, so you guys can buy bonds together, out of it, someday.

She can work and still get the kids where they need to go. You know she can. Believe in her...urge her for this amends...because even if you refuse to stop hating yourself...doesn't mean she has to...

as she does...

Be bigger than you are today and layout some redemption. Maybe then, inside you, you'll choose differently.

LA