Originally Posted by ConfuzedHusband
It's kind of frustrating that the advice I gave a few months ago (to sever, divorce, and move on) got deleted by a mod at the time, but is now what most of the posters are advising you to do. These have been months of needless pain for you. I can only imagine how much you have hurt. And I'm sorry for your pain.

For your sake, please, don't listen to the people saying "Time for Plan B". Gurka, your situation BEGS for immediate divorce.

I've been in your shoes, I know it's hard to do, but you WILL find someone else, someone who treats you well and responds to the love that you're willing to give.

I wish you the best, but, my friend, it's time to pull the plug.

Best wishes.

Yeah, frustrating...until you remember that this is Marriage Builders, and that Gerka still felt he could continue in his efforts to recover his marriage. If the goal was possible, if he needed to try just a bit more, I think a better way to serve that is to respectfully advise.

There are no shortage of those willing to castigate wayward spouses and urge with exceedingly vociferous admonishments those betrayed to ditch that [fill in the blank].

If, however, the BS needs support, needs guidance, needs help navigating this club that they did not sign up for... If the BS has enough love and hope and belief in his or her WS and their M, if they stand for more than those denigrating their betrayed position and its intense rollercoaster of feelings, then I think it is indeed the aim of this forum to step in and help.

Me - 30 (FWW)
H - 30 (BH)
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D-day: 2008