DNM, I'm 38, he's 43. I don't *think* either of those are true. We went through the whole "hysterical bonding" phase during the false R where we were practically having SF daily. Even while we were dating he was always lower drive than me. I always felt like it was b/c he didn't find me physically attractive before, but now I feel like it's b/c he is repulsed by me because of what I did. I don't have any evidence to support that he's looking at porn and the only chemical imbalance is his depression, which I think he's always dealt with depressive tendencies but my A threw him into full-blown depression. He has a prescription for antidepressants, he's tried a zillion different kinds, but he says nothing helps. I kind of think he may have stopped taking the last ones on his own - I don't think he's taking them now.

Here's the email I received from him this morning:

How do I know that you have told me the truth? How do I know that I can trust you again? What is driving me away is the fact that I don't believe you have told me the whole truth, because you are either afraid of hurting me or how it will make you look. I'm just tired of dealing with those thoughts and what you have told me. You were suppose to be my wife. If you wanted (OM) than you can have him, you both deserve each other.

I just don't know what to do anymore.


"Snow and adolescence are the only problems that disappear if you ignore them long enough." ~ Earl Wilson