A person who has the same problem year after year doesn't really want change, and hold has alluded to this himself. People who really want resolution find resolution.

It is notable to me that we have many people on this forum [the old Emotional Needs forum] who come here year after year and have the same problem today they arrived with years ago. They have been coming here for years and know nothing about Marriage Builders. They have never used the program in all these years - never even considered it. These old posters show up every month. It is just amazing to me the stark contrast between this and the other MB forums, which tend to be more solution and action oriented.

Part of the problem is that folks historically don't discuss or understand Marriage Builders on this forum and are under the impression the point here is to discuss conflicts.....for years. That dynamic tends to attract folks who are attached to their problems because it gives them a platform for endless venting.

We have people who have been on this website [in other forums] who know more about MB in 6 months than older members who have been here for 10 years. But then, they are looking for solutions.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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