p.s. most of the marriages over on the private forum did not have infidelity in them and they are just as recovered as the ones who did. Dr Harley states that most couples who come to him for help contain at least ONE reluctant spouse.

In short, the fact that a marriage has infidelity has no seeming relation whether or not they recover. The difference is that those on the other forums are actually using the program. They historically have not used the program over here.

Everything I have told you here is a pretty common reaction of those in recovered marriages who come over here for the first time. They wonder if they have wandered on some alien website because it hardly recognizable as a Marriage Builders forum.

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