So I believe Dr Harley recommends taking one EN category and then writing out the many things we like within each category? So to take Affection for an example, one might do it like this?

Affection:

-Meaningful hugs when I leave for work
-Holding hands while on the couch
-Kisses on the back of the neck
-Massaging my shoulders during a long day

Is that specific enough in your minds, or is it better to go into more detail to maximize confidence in my wife's desire to meet those needs?

Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD