Originally Posted by CWMI
"It's a guy thing so I wouldn't have talked about it with you anyway." (!!! Funny, I don't remember a whole lot of times that he started conversations about shopping and manicures in order to talk about 'girl things' with me, lol. I digress...)

I think this is prob. normal. I like to play video games when I have free time (which is very rare). My wife can careless about video games, so I don't talk to her about video games. I might bring up that there's a new system out and that I'd like to look into buying one because of the increased graphics processor blah blah blah. But htat's only to describe why I'd like to make the purchse. I might even find a new game and go "oh man! Come look at teh graphics on this game!" I'll talk to my guy friends though about video games because it's a guy thing typically. As far as manicures and girl stuff, our convesations on that are she'd like to get a manicure or her hair cut....okay, cool. But I don't want to have a conversation about it because I don't really want to talk about 'girl' stuff. Well, aside from "I think your hair might look good like this style"

I do have it on pretty good authority of experience that the more he talks about it, the more he will want it

I think you're on target. I learned long ago that if my wife was adverse to me doing X and Y and I knew that I wouldn't be able to but kept thinking about it and talkinga bout it, I'd only be disappointed later. It's much easier to say, "Sorry...I won't be able to." and then it's done with.

I would like for my H to surround himself with people who support our marriage, and avoid those who don't. I don't think this guy is unsupportive. I just think he doesn't know.

Does that make sense?

I agree. When you have goals, it's important to surround yourself with people that share like goals or will at least support those goals.

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