I'd say that my IB sure didn't help. I'm sure she didn't feel very loved. It wasn't until fairly recently that I got her into a psychitarist and it was discovered that she has bipolar with an anxiety disorder. Medication has helped tremendously.

The other thing is she grew up with a mom that was all about AOs and DJs. The husband was simply a paycheck and if he did something the mom didn't like, it wouldn't be uncommon for verbal or physical abuse to occur. And husbands were disposable.

The husband worked and the mom sat around drinking and doing drugs all day and night. The birth dad would (when they lived with him) allow for the daughters to have boys spend the night, buy them cigarettes, and supply them with drugs and alcohol. There were times they got pawned off on the grandparents.

One of my biggest changes I made on my self was to really make an effort to meet her need for FC and DS. It's made a world of difference.

Husband (me) 39
Wife 36
Daughter 21
Daughter 19
Son 14
Daughter 10
Son 8 (autistic)