I believe that I would table all discussion of BC until you see a doctor. Your wife is pretty entrenched into her thinking, and whomever she's gotten her information about current BC isn't doing y'all any favors.

I thought this consult was already set with her OB/GYN? It should be an easy appointment, no exam, and should get scheduled right away.

Maybe, just maybe, put off SF until you get the consult.

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