Originally Posted by SugarCane
Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
Not good, wife just confirmed she won't get a consult at all and is withholding sex. I have two options, condoms or V's. She has about 10 options which I know is kind of unfair, but that is just medicine, I can't control it. So basically I have to get a V against my will in order to have a romantic relationship with my wife. What a great position to be in. Hopefully things will calm down a bit.
I think that if she wanted to have sex with you, she would find ways of having sex that do not involve penetration.

I think that the issue is that she does not want to have sex with you. I don't know why she doesn't.

If you have a vasectomy you will be calling her bluff. If the root problem is that she does not want to have sex with you, then a vasectomy will reveal this.

Well you could be wrong but I just asked her so we'll see what her answer is. I said to be honest with me and if she was not attracted to me what things could I do to change that. We'll see what she says. I have been feeling that general "disinterested" feeling like I had before coming to MB. I honestly think it is about having a child again since we are extremely stressed out with #3, particularly her.


Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD