This is hard but doable. I've learned that
-I can't make her do anything
-that she finds things important that I don't find important at all and vice versa
-that when she DJs me, AOs me, or SDs me that there is no retaliation required

So I'm a year into this but then again I'm mostly going it alone, wife isn't a fan of MB. My marriage is sexless, aside from an occasional "hop on and make it quick" which makes me actual prefer not to have sex. My wife told me she likes who I've become but that it will take more time. I also believe that a vasectomy will lead to no further sex, affection, or any other need. DJ? Past behavior has told me there are unlimited reasons for no sex.

Btw I emailed Joyce no return, should I try again?

Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD