On that note, I'm sick of hearing buddies who treat their wives like complete [censored] tell me about how much sex they are having. How is it that some wives take daily abuse and sleep with their husbands regularly anyways?

How about choosing friends with successful marriages, so you can hear about do-able things that work to create happy families.

Sorry to hear things have degenerated. How are you doing with POJA? You sound like someone who is doing a lot of things you really don't like to do, you sound like you're feeling very justified in feeling angry right now. Are there some things you are doing that you're not enthusiastic about, that you can stop doing today?

Me 40, OD 18 and YD 13
Married 15 years, Divorced 10/2010