Originally Posted by catwhit
I have a suggestion for your "opposing personal clocks" situation. How about if, when you go to bed, Kiss comes in and spoons/ snuggles with you, at least until you fall asleep. If he is still awake 10 or 15 minutes after you are asleep, he could get up. But perhaps he will also fall asleep with you.

He does do this but I often wake up in the middle of the night and he is not there. A huge trigger as that is what he did during his A, when he would text/call his AP.

Originally Posted by catwhit
About the car/ Kiss's sis: Did you expose to your SIL at the time you did the A exposure?

Yes, but I believe it fell on deaf ears at the time as she believed his lies rather than my truth. It is not something I want to rehash now, if ykwim.

Originally Posted by catwhit
About Kiss defending you, have you tried the line, "I'd love it if you would defend and protect me whenever someone makes a hurting comment." ? I had to bring this up with Taffy, and it took me a LONG time to get to this request, because I hate to feel like I can't stick up for myself/ am weak/ need a protector.

I will do this in the future. Kiss has told me that he has stuck up for me, but since it wasn't in my presence and the offender did not acknowledge my hurt, I did not feel any better.

Last edited by Rocketqueen; 04/19/14 09:25 PM.