I too believe in marriage and I DO NOT WANT A DIVORCE!!!! My WH has been at this since 4/99. Same OW still in his life. Found out last month after 1 1/2 years of believing she was gone. Grrrrrrrrrr<p>WH even told me last Oct. when he suprised me and came home (OW Birthday) and told me that he was sorry about 2 years ago (I had my wedding rings delivered to him at OW back door to let him know I knew he had lied and I knew where he was).<p>WH is 40 and OW is 50's+? WH moved out in 4/99 and has changed careers and is living about 150 miles from me and our home. OW is 60 miles roughly from him. Since I found out about the contact last month, my WH now has a very ticked off wife (AGAIN), he lost his job 4/22/02, had to move out of former compnay apartment (unless that was a lie too), has a truck having problems and 4/26/02 cut me off and informed me that he is tired of "Everyone having their nose stuck in his business". Refused and refuses to tell me where he is. WH is not answering my e-mails either and has not called. Last contact was 4/26/02.<p>I clearly told him that we cannot go on unitl he chooses to end things for life with her. That I will not be second or be in a 3 way relationship. Yes I LB and threatened divorce and to drag her right in the middle if he didn't end A and it went to divorce. He blew whole thing off like it was just a rumor and "He was tired of me going off on him everytime I hear something from every Tom, [censored] and Harry". Source of information is reliable and accurate.<p>For the last 1 1/2 years, even with the distance in miles, he has e-mailed, called, came home and as of this past Christmas started telling me that he loved me and missed me. Now, since learning of contact (OW helped him when his truck broke down), he went to her and had her take him back to the city, he has cut ME his WIFE DEAD. Really hurts........WH told me about same time as contact with OW that he was having truck problems and I had offered him the use of my new car. He stated that he wasn't going to do that and thanked me for the offer. Then I find out WH truck broke down and it was OW he turned to for help...........Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr............<p>I have turned it all over to "GOD", placed it in his hands and I am reading, learning on here and through books I recently bought through MB bookstore. I really believe in the POWER OF GOD!!!!<p>I did LB and scream divorce but WH hasn't said he wanted one, simply broke all contact with me. Did the last 1 1/2 years mean nothing? We laughed, loved and never even had an arguement. WH said only reason we were apart was his job.<p>Can any FWH or W-spouses give me an idea what the cutting me off is all about? Last thing he said to me was "Just let me work this out, ok"? Don't know if that was because he had lost his job or if it's in general??????? ANY IDEA'S?<p>Why after 1 1/2 years of WH allowing me to believe OW was out of the picture, did he allow "us" to go on? To laugh, love, communicate, and etc. Then when I found out about WH's contact in March with OW, (I found out middle of April) has WH just chopped me out of his life?<p>WH has not said anything about wanting divorce, simply that he wasn't going to answer any of my d**n questions. WH also got mad when a co-worker I was taking home, answered my cell for me as I was turning across traffic. I have nothing to "hide", so I asked him to answer cell knowing it was probably my WH. WH questioned me as to who it was and I answered him honestly. This co-worker had a wreck and needed a ride home. It was on my way and his wife buys Mary Kay from me.<p>HELP?
