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comments about it?<p>Llama
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Better than any other I have read on the subject.<p>I have read SAA, Torn Asunder, After the Affair, and a few others; I highlighted AtA more than all others combined. AtA is the only book of those I listed that I still use in my stage of recovery (I still use some of the other Harley books but SAA no longer applies).
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llama--<p>I have read it, so has my WW. In fact she is re-reading it currently, and I have picked it up from time to time to re-read soem passages.<p>I recommend it...<p>E
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It's my favorite of all the "Affair" books I read. The author was gentle with my feelings, and dealt with the pain of betrayal as the serious seperate issue that it is. It did not, right or wrong, spend any time suggesting that the BS was partially responsible for their own pain. <p>It has a great section on rebuilding trust. There are charts for you to fill out requesting high, and low "cost" behaviors that your S can do to help demonstrate commitment. The fact that my W was willing to do these trust building behaviors was a big reason why we survived the first few months. <p>I'd recommend this as a first book for anyone suffering through the pain of just finding out. <p>David
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llama, I've read that one, the others Mr. Bunky names and many more. I think it gives a lot of good information and speaks to both the BS & Ws--if the WS will read it. <p>I read it 3 years ago when the A was still going on. I re-read it about a month ago...and it made even more sense to me in Recovery.
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