Is it possible that a WS is so ashamed and guilty about their actions they want to forget about it all together ?
My WS has been comfortable, relaxed and seems to be back to some form of normalcy. We have not discussed anything about what happened since March. I told her we can talk any time she wants, and she has chosen not to. Her actions seem to suggest that she wants to put this behind her, but she doesn't bring up anything. WE have been developing a comfortable relationship but with a definite lack of intimacy ( SF and other wise) Has nay one else had this happen and what did you do and what do you think it means ?

Mark,<p>I'm going through the same thing. My FWH doesn't act like anything happened. Doesn't talk about it unless I bring it up. We are the way we were before the A happened. Well except for the fact that he is more affectionate, buys me flowers and does what he can to show me he loves me. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>We get along great and do everything together. He was working 2nd shift at a job he couldn't stand for 3 yrs he quit on d-day. He said it was like a relief because he didn't know how to get away from her. He said he actually wanted to end it long before but she continued to haunt him and also threatened to tell me. He is happy to be home with his family, doing the job he loved and to be away from her. I'm the one that has bad days. We are working on them. <p>So I can only hope what our spouses are going through is normal.<p>sty