Well came home from work last nite & H was home from his holiday & guess who's car was in the drive? Came home again 2nite & his house lights were off but hers were on, including the bedroom lights it was dark so i couldn't see if his truck was there he wasn't at the bar so where else could he have been but there all I could think of as I drove past her place was we never made love with the lights on! & thats getting to me stupid eh.

I just knew there was something going on between those 2 but they didn't have the guts to come out with it until her H had left & my H & I seperated.. I just feel so p****d off right now but am writimg on here instead of contacting H.

I have no choice but to drive by their places as it's the only road to work I know i should have done what Steve Harley said & just looked the other way (I do the in daylight hours but it was dark so stupid me sneaked a peek) I just wish that i didn't feel so alone right now but as steve said once an affair comes out in the open the s**t will hit the fan I soooooooo hope so but it sounds like i have at least a six month wait for this to happen & maybe it never will & I will just be a lonely old spinster.......

Dear wrungout-

(((wrungout))) - sorry sorry sorry you have to go through this.

You went through a lot trying to decide whether or not you should stay in the village, so you knew you might go through this - but man it hurts when it hits you between the eyes!

Honey - I can bet you are not going to be a lonely old spinster - just look at what you've done in a few short weeks! You have a lot of talent and this is going to make you stronger - either that or it breaks you, and I don't think you are someone who is going to break! Six months from now, when you drive down that road, you will feel differently - and you know what - the statistics are way stacked against them succeeding - isn't it something like 3%?

BTW - what work are you doing now? Do you like it? How about your own friends? Do you still see them? And remember - you have 2 wonderful sons who love you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Odile

Hi there & thanks for your kind words, just hit me a bit hard last night but my fault I should have been looking straight ahead (especially since i was driving, Imagine if i'd had an accident right outside OW place!! could have ended up in her bedroom myself in my car!!! hee hee now that would have been a suprise 4 them wouldn't it!) Anyway I have a job starting on 1st Oct with a helicopter tourism company but in the meantime have taken a temporary job as a check out chick in a supermarket! it's quite good fun & am meeting heaps of people & some that haven't recognised me because of all the weight i have lost at weight watchers. I took the temporary job to keep me busy & it was my best move yet. My friends are here in the village & they are there if I need them but am trying not to talk to anyone other than you guys & Steve as me talking to other people was a huge LB for my H he hated to think i was talking about him or that other people were talkking about him. One question I forgot to ask Steve was that if I get the chance I should mention that I am no longer discussing these things with others?? what do you think. Well must dash have to go to work am working 6 days a week so thats keeping me busy! Catchya later