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Hi All - this poll is motivated by the one from Spacecase, and CA123's suggestion on that thread. I tried to cover all possibilities, but if I missed one please comment on this thread.
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Great question and choices!! IMO...
It will be interesting to see the results.
Thanks tmmx!
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^^^ for the night shift.
Thanks, Faith.
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Dear tmmx:
I wanted to vote, but could not find the option that "fit" me/us:
No Plan A, Immediate Plan B, Immediate Reconciliation/Recovery.
Strong recovery continues (2.5 years post d-day)!
Thanks, Marie
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Plan A, Skip B, Divorce
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I have the same situation as Lexxy. Plan A to divorce. I voted under Plan A, since I am in the process of divorce and still plan A'ing my butt off.
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Hey I did Plan A, Plan B, Plan A, Plan B, Plan Divorce, then some more Plan A while Plan Divorce, and then Recovery <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Just goes to show the problem with polls and their designers! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />
If you did vote "other", or can't vote, please post an explanation on this thread and we can make a decent summary after polling closes.
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I voted Plan A > recovery. I did have to threaten my H with Plan B however for contact to stop. However we never actually went into B.
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I voted other.
My H ended A before I found out, so there was no plan A, or plan B. He recommitted to the marriage before I even knew about the A. (partly how I figured out something was up, he was being too nice!!)
So I guess I went from discovery to recovery.
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Jamup - that's a nice "other"!
One more day to vote...
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I voted Plan A to divorce.
Now my Plan was 2 yrs, well, maybe 18 mths & then 6 mths of just enduring the misery till he finally jumped off the fence. I was in a place at the time that Plan B was not a choice, living overseas, kids in schoo & didn't want to live mid yr.
to make a long story even longer;
Did PLan A, basically for 9 mths, was Planning on going to Plan B, but WH say he come home when I told him we were going to change how we were doing things, I was really going to go to PLan B. Then later I was going to go to PLan B & then we moved overseas. When we came back I was glad that there was an ending even if it was divroce. Of course, that was a yr ago & we still are not divroceb but he is still living with OW. I guess you could say in some ways I still in Plan A, just because it makes life easier.
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Here is a summary. There were 72 votes, and accounting for some of the "other" responses: </font> - <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Still in Plan A - 19 (26%)</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Still in Plan B - 4 (6%)</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">In recovery, no plan B - 23 (32%)</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">In recovery, with plan B - 7 (10%)</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Divorce, skipped plan A and/or B - 2 (3%)</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Divorce, with plans A and B - 12 (17%)</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Other - 5 (7%)</font></li>
<font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Some unscientific conclusions, leaving out the remaining "other" votes: </font> - <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">1/3 of the voters are still in plan A or B.</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Of those with a resolution, recovery occurs about 2/3 of the time and divorce 1/3 of the time.</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">About 1/3 of the voters used plan B...</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">... but of those with a resolution, 43% used plan B.</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Of all those using plan B, divorce occurred over 1/2 of the time.</font></li>
<font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">"Resolution" means recovery or divorce, but it must be recognized that recovery is not necessarily final. Spacecase did a poll that showed plan B is needed about 2/3 of the time when the affair does not end immediately. These two polls don't really contradict each other, since my poll did not ask when the affair ended. Plan B is needed less often if the affair ends immediately. I don't know if this information is truly helpful, but it might be reassuring to see 2/3 recovery rate. And for those contemplating plan B, it's good to understand the real possibility of divorce. <small>[ August 04, 2002, 04:01 PM: Message edited by: tmmx ]</small>
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