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What Keeps you Hanging On ?
#1014216 07/10/02 01:53 PM
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To all my BS Brethren, a question that keeps coming up in my brain. Why do I stay ? What makes any of us put up with this and how do you cope with the frustration ? I know what my reasons are, but there may be other reason I am doing this without even knowing it. Lets share our reasons and ways we stay sane. Drugs and Prayer are obvious ( although neither seem to help me). How should our experience end, what do you want to hear from your WS. I'll start I know I would like to hear a heartfelt apology and a declaration of love and I would also like to here her admit that I am the best thing that ever happened to her. I Know that's nuts but you can dream can't you ?
Re: What Keeps you Hanging On ?
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Why do I stay?

It's a matter of wanting to be sure in my heart that I have done all I possibly can in this marriage before I let it go.

It's wanting my three boys to grow up in an intact, loving household.

It's wanting to feel that all our years together were worth something and that the core of "us" is still valuable and worth something.

How do I cope? IC, reading (books, MB, etc), journaling, and prayer (much and many!!!).

What do I want? For my WS to "get it". To look deep inside himself and find the answers, so that we might be less vulnerable in the future. So that he can know his own motivations and desires, and be willing to share ALL of his thoughts and feelings with me.

I got a letter of apology and acceptance of responsiblity that I had asked for. It meant a lot and still does.

hth,
SonsCubed

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