just wanted to put my 2 cents in. I don't think that anyone intends to "bash" here. It is all a matter of your emotional state, experiences, etc.

I think that we need to support Honey in what she wants to do, save her marriage. That is what this site is for. No, none of us agree that what her husband is doing is right, but look at our husbands or wives, how do we compare?? Alcoholism is an illness.

I think we all can agree that Honey needs to be strong, for herself and her children. But she's also hurting, bless her heart. ((((HUGS to HONEY))).

This is one place that we can come to, to celebrate, or to vent, that we can honestly trust. We need to make sure that this is a "safe haven" for us to come to. I know that I have come to vent many times, and alot of you have responded to my venting and calmed me down (thanks!!)) and have prevented me from LBing.

Also, sometimes things take on a different meaning when you read something than when you are actually talking to someone.

Click this link for information on how you can get child support from your H.

Honey
You might be interested to know that in my temporary orders it stated that my kids could not be with any other woman while they were with my H....other than family. He couldn't call her either. It was worth every penny for me because it took all the pressure off of my kids. As you know....I am in Texas. There is also a clause that you can have put in your divorce papers (i didn't do this...) that says that the kids can't spend the night with your H while he is with OW. .....unless they are married. It is called the morality clause.

He should be paying support. There is just no excuse for it! The judge will not like the fact that he hasn't. You have tried everything else.....I would go see a lawyer. You could be divorced as early as 60 days from the day you filed.....or....it took me almost a year from when I filed. I wasn't even trying to drag my feet! He did it for me.

I'd do it..show him you are ready to move on without him. Then do it!!! It's tough...but you'll know where you stand. You will have some control over your life. Honey...after following your story...I'm not sure he is worth all of the pain you are going through. Maybe this will jolt him into doing the right thing by his family. Like.... maybe he will get a job:)!!

Good luck. Stay strong.

Max