GC,Was SH advice a pure Plan A or modified PlanA/B? Hope you are doing well and had a
good weekend, I know weekends can be tough.
Take care yourself,
Dave

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by maw64:
<strong>Hi - How are things going today?? Any contact with your husband or have things been calm?? I hope that you are feeling better about things!! You also have to do what you feel is best people can you there opinion but ultimately the choice is all yours.... I hope for your sake you get some answers soon.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">nope, I haven't talked to him at all, been watching football all day, makes me kinda sad because we love out team and was going to get season tickets, but didn't!!
I am trying to focus on the positive, he has not mentioned divorce since last weekend and he is not living with OW full time, that could be a good thing or a bad thing.

It could be good because: OW does not have him staying with her all the time, maybe it will make her "wonder" especially after he moved things out, maybe a potential of LBIng and questioning his whereabouts, maybe LBing by forcing him to get a divorce??

It could be bad because: They have their weekend getaways together, no more explanation needed.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by davepr:
<strong>GC,Was SH advice a pure Plan A or modified PlanA/B? Hope you are doing well and had a
good weekend, I know weekends can be tough.
Take care yourself,
Dave</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I think more of a modified version. He said Plan A but with detachment, no relationship talk, no pursuing, let him contact me. SH said it is very, very dangerous in my situation to implement a full Plan B as we have no children.

Hey Going Crazy - you sound like you are much better - maybe that is good or bad about him and the other woman - but you don't want to ask what is going on right??? I was never good with the plan A - I just couldn't stop myself from the constant one liners that always seem to come to me. So some stuff is out of the ow - but not all of it - Has he told you he was moving out of there?? I am glad he hasn't brought up the divorce in a week - I guess if you want to save the marriage you pretty much have to go with the flow - right??? Football - I love to watch it also I watched one game at 1:00 but it isn't the same without my husband so I changed to lifetime - it is sometime comforting watching movies that are real but make my life not seem so bad - talk to you later...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by maw64:
<strong>So some stuff is out of the ow - but not all of it - Has he told you he was moving out of there??</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">As far as I know, everything he had there has been moved back, he put it all away at our house and everything.

He told me that he has been staying with one of his friends closer to this work, which is 1 hour away from our home, but 2 hours from OW. I find it hard that he would stay there all the time with a 4hour round trip commute every day, but who knows?

Going Crazy - Ok now - why is his job an hour away from home - has it always been - ?? You know you read so many posts - sometimes they tend to run together - OK now he said he was bringing everything home then he changed his mind about getting back together - then he wanted to get back together - then he wanted a divorce and now he isn't talking about divorce or anything right??? Now I have it right I think - my god all of this really bites doesn't it... It is like changing from one day to the next - I remember when in the beginning all of this was going and everyday it was a new dilemma a new lie revealed another situation - another deception - and people would be like how is it going - I would have to stop and say ok well what do you know so far - because it had changed so much - Which actually if I think about it - it is very sad - maybe someday it will be funny to me... My husband today came to my daughters cheerleading game and of course he comes up in the stands and sits down next to me and talks like we are best friends or you know what better - husband and wife - and my sister is sitting on the other side of me - thinking that I am the worlds biggest sucker -because I give the time of day at all... This is all so hard - you never know what to do or how to react and basically this is our life and we want it one way - but in my case that way isn't gonna work and I have to start dealing with the direction it is going in - which is pretty scary.... Oh I don't want to bring you down - I don't know - you just never know - if someone where to have asked me 2 , 5 or 7 yrs. ago would I ever be in this situation I would have said no way.... That is most of my problem - we never really had any problems and were pretty happy.. Oh well talk to you later... Mimi

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by maw64:
<strong>why is his job an hour away from home - has it always been - ?? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">A little history, he lost his job back in March due to corporate cutbacks, this is where him and OW had met, she had actually got a new job last year further away.

His new job is actually in his hometown, where all of his friends and family are. He has always said he wanted to move back there, even mentioned it about us moving back there during his "out of fog" phase.

Email me if you want at mb_going_crazy@hotmail.com and I can give you more details!!