Just an update,
I have been talking to a lawyer about our D. To clarify, I don't want it, but for legal reasons:
WH lives out of state
Laws better here
Also the little thing that he could get a FAST D. there, here we will have to wait probably 6 mnths. Hopefully time for things to work out.
Etc. Etc.
Anyway, at first WH and I wanted to have a settlement agreement. Wanted to be amicable. He presented it and in my limited and loving view, thought it was okay. But I got nervous, and decided to talk to a lawyer.GOOD THING!! He says the only person settlement agreement is good for is WH. Not for me and the kids.
I hadn't really looked into things and believed everything he told me. I was trying to "BE NICE" myself right into a HOLE.
Well my lawyer has different ideas. But still I am so sick about it. I still want reconciliation. I have a bad feeling this will make WH hate me.
He will probably feel I have manipulated him and lied to him. I did manipulate a little to drag things out but I was truly trying to be fair and thought he was being so with me. And I do believe in his own FOGGY way he still thinks HE is the one being taken advantage of. He acts like he is really getting the short end of the stick, not only in our settlement but in everything that is happening. But when the lawyer and an accountant friend laid out the numbers to me. SURPRIZE <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Guess who comes out smelling like a rose and guess who gets the manure.
I hate this. I DO NOT WANT THIS D. But, I have to protect me and the kids. He is throwing away everything we built over 24 yrs on a girl who was 1 yr old when we got married.
My only hope is that now that they are finally together, she just got here in Aug from overseas, that things will fall apart before it is too late. Any suggestions? I don't want to lose all I have been fighting for because I have to stand up for myself.
Can't ANY part of this be EASY?
Thanks,
S