Need Advise from any one who went through or is going through this.
I had an EA, trying to work M out but sign of my W history of anger and resentments keeps on coming up. She is not going to Marriage Counseling anymore I am still going.
I am afraid that even if we work through this EA she will just revert back to the person she has become and make my life and kids life miserable?
Since she has stop MC I found this site and Started MB. She says I will never be able to do this and has not said anything more. I am trying to life by the MB principles. I don't want to loose everything but I not sure if I can live with the yelling, baggering anymore, or wondering how she will act when we see family.
HOW LONG DO I TRY FOR? WILL SHE EVER GET BETTER WITH OUT COUNSELING?
Brief history
M 14y, W has a lot of resent toward me because I 'm in a family business and it takes alot of time up. She only works PT, that what she wants and it helps out a little. She new what I did before M. We live pretty well never was deprived. Big house, nice car, vaction, etc. W has caused problems with family member. I stand to heriate alot but I have questions because of her action. I put alot of time into it and to receive nothing make me angry. She is from a acoholic household. MC thinks she also has tendencies. Her Sister had breakdown years ago and got better and has tried to talk to my w but she will listen to noone about her action and how determental they are to our future.
Do I stay submissive like I been to save our marriage or do I try to save the future for my children and myself?