I am in Plan B with my wife(WS) since the end of June now. I saw her last night because I had to sign some paper work for her car. She is refinancing her car due to lack of funds. I believe I did my best Plan A'ing while I saw her but I didn't act all happy and cheerful because I didn't feel it. Seeing her mentally kicked my butt again.
The question I have is why does she ask me how my mom is, my brother and sister-in-law, my aunt, my cousins, etc.. But she doesn't ask a dam word how I am doing. Is this due to the fact that she really does realize on how bad she hurt me? Or do you think she could still see the broken heart through my eyes? I just wanted someone elses perspective before I read into this too much.
I was glad to hear from my mother-in-law that the other day she say my wife, her daughter, in the closet at their house crying while looking at pictures. Glad to hear some where in that cold hearted body there is some emotion she just chooses to hide it.

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My opinion is that she doesn't want that answer. Why? Because it would only serve to verify in her mind just how cruel she was. Her conscious being does not want to see that at all.

Sort of like she doesn't have to face it if it's not "obvious". Her way of either running, or hiding from it.

As to not asking, my stbXW has NEVER offered a direct apology to me for her A of 3 years. Oh yes...she has spoken the "generic" one. The one where she talks about how it was a mistake, she never should have done it, how she knows, and knew, that it was wrong. But...she never has actually told me that she was sorry for how she hurt ME!

If she did that, she would have to face it totally.

She's NOT going to do that, I've found.

HCII

She just wants to hurt you. It's that simple. It worked.

-AD