My Xh's Mother is complaining that she will not be involved in my youngest s's life. He is 7 mo. old and I can count on one hand how many times she's seen him. I don't want my child around her or his family. I know it sounds ridiculous,but I do have my reasons. I just want to know if it's enough. My Xh's Brother is dating a married woman and their ok with that. My Xh dated a girl(while I was pregnant) and they told her that they hoped things worked out between both of them. I had an A. first, but wrong is wrong in my book. After we reconciled, they bought his Girlfriend gifts and then sent gifts to my h. and my s. with "uncle" and "cousin" written on them and delibratly left me out. I know that's just stupid to be upset about, but then they came to the hospital when I had my s. to "make sure" he was a part of the family. I'm sorry, but I can forgive them, but that doesn't mean I want to be around them, is this wrong? Not to mention that both my XMIl and her H(X's stepdad) both treat my oldest son different because Stepdad doesn't like my h. I'm sorry but I'm done subjecting my kids to this.

RAINEFALL,

No, I don't think you are overreacting. My FIL used to be a real jerk, to my kids, to my H. It was ridiculus. I told my H that if he chooses to be around his father that is fine with me but I won't have my kids dealing with that. I kept them away from my FIL until he decided he could behave. Too bad if your XIL's feel bad about not seeing your children, you don't need to worry about their feelings. The only thing you need to worry about is your kids if they can't accept your decision oh well.

DU

RAINE,

No you are not overreacting!!!! In my book if they can't treat you nicely how are you to trust that they will treat your children any better.

Stick with your principals!!! Put that armour on you may have a fight if she decides to get nasty!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Thanks,

The latest is that my 4yos asked to make cookies with her, "no, they are all Mckenna's" These were cookies she bought from him during a fundraiser. Mckenna is ex's brother's (still married) girlfriend's daughter. Is that stupid, the kid isn't even her grandchild and she treats her better than her grandson, I have a problem with that.

I thought that there was police involvement with this whole visiting situation b/c of your xBIL's involvement with child porn. Am I getting your story mixed up with another?

And no, you are NOT over-reacting one bit! IMO, until your children are old enough to decide whether or not they spend time with those people, then it is up to YOU to decide. That's what being a parent is all about. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Karen

yes, his brother was doing the child porn, he has yet to reap any consequences. He is out of the house now and I have allowed my son to go over there a few times, only when my xh is the only one there. I guess I'm just frustrated and to top it off, I had class last night and my x did not show up to watch the kids like he said and I had to send my baby out of town with my mom this morning because he failed to show up again, am I glad I'm divorced?? Yes!!