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Wife is leaving
#1035076 10/21/02 06:38 PM
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Hello All,
My last posting was 2 months ago. Thank you all for helping, to see me just fall backward. I lasted on 6 days and went back to OW. Wife has hung on, ultimatums, brief seperations, fights, threats, still goes on. Now she has quit the job she loves and will go back to Asia unless I do reconcile with her now and end the affair. I am still unsure of going back to the marriage. I am also unsure of life with my lover and being alone for a while. Almost one year with lover. Can chemistry come back to a marriage? Can love really be renewed? I see only doubts and fears in my life. Please respond anyone. Thank you all.
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I am posting again for help. I think deep down under thick layers of avoidance, I want to be honorable and make amends to my wife.
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Yes you can restore the love you had for your wife. You cannot have strong feelings for your wife while you are having the affair. The first thing you need to do is end the affair permanently. To do this you must end ALL contact with her for life. Then work hard on your marriage. It will take time and a lot of effort to recover. Read the information on this website, it is very helpfull.
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I know I would have to decide to work it out with my wife and decide to end it with my lover. I am so unsure of myself, I have doubts in our ability to work out the marriage. I have doubts in my ability to detach from my lover. The only thing I do not doubt is the feeling I have about myself, that I have been selfish, cruel, dishonest, undependable, and wreckless. How much time do I have to give the marriage for a fair chance? I am afraid.

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