Received e-mail this morning from WW regarding what we were doing with visitation on the Holidays. She wasn't sure yet about Halloween. Said I could have them Christmas Eve, but she would like them for a few hours Christmas morning and that she may have me take the boys to her parents in the afternoon. But, she said I could have them for Thanksgiving. I asked, in a response to her e-mail, if she didn't want to have them at all on Thanksgiving? As soon as I hit the send button I realized why. I remember that she said OM was coming here the end of November. I have the boys that weekend too. So, I'm sure he will be here for Thanksgiving. I'm not mad, or angry or even hurt really. I am just trying to understand why she would choose OM on a Holiday instead of her kids. I do hurt actually, but for them. They will understand. If we are with my family and maybe with in-laws that day aren't my boys going to wonder where their mother is on a day where we'll see the whole family? How can she do this? Why would she do this? This is not her. Her family has always meant so much to her. If she feels she doesn't have her family or her marriage anymore, wouldn't you think she would want to start a new tradition with her boys. I am. I am looking forward to doing that with them.

Please God, if your listening, show her the way before it is too late. At least for my boys.

HW

I shouldn't be surprised, but it also shows Om's selfishness too. If I ever meet someone in the future that has kids, I would WANT them to spend as much time with their kids as possible. That is the kind of person I would want to be with. Someone who puts their kids first. What would it tell me about someone who would put me ahead of their kids? What would it tell me about myself if I wanted to be with someone who put me ahead of their kids?

HW