I have a very few suggestions,
W ...I re-read the email in question last night and I can understand why you would be so upset. I said some horrible things. I'm sorry I said them. I'm sorry you saw them.
but they were my feelings at the time and I can't change them or the fact than I vocalized them. Mostly, I'm sorry I said them. Please understand that it was a vent to my confidant ... a way of "counting to 10" before I did something really stupid. In fact, you didn't see the subsequent emails that he and I exchanged after I went to work that consisted of me telling him not to worry ... that my mouth would stay shut, because that's the right thing to do and doing anything else wouldn't help anyone get through this any easier. Since July (my buddy has been the equivalent to your girlfriend), so when I need to unload he hears it. He often empathizes with me. He usually lends me a clear head. He always helps me sort out my feelings and thoughts. And he, like those who may only know the bare minimum, wants for the both us to be happy people.
I look foreword to the time when you and I won't need anyone else to talk to, that we will be the friend and confidant for each other. Again, I'm sorry. I hope that you can forgive me. I love you. cg
So is your name because you are from Colorado (CO)? or something else? And remember, if it is private, you don't have to reply. I just asked because I used to live in Colorado a long time ago.
I came here ( to MB) in late January of 02 but I didn't start posting until May. I keep thinking I have learned something and I apply it in my own marriage and then I find that I still have so far to go. Note that my marriage right now would be considered a really good strong one and we are in love, but what I am saying is that I learn that there are still many things I can do to improve myself, and in so doing, also improve my M.
I am telling you this for a reason. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
I hope you are working on yourself right along. I know your wife has issues and needs to change but I have found that I wasn't able to change anything about my W. I could only change me.
The amazing thing, is that she changed right along with me. She responded to my changes almost as fast as I could put them into effect. Things really can be as good as DR Harley says they can.
I got a great deal of good from "HNHN" and "Love Busters" I am reading Love Busters again because I need it the most. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
If my W were standing here reading over my shoulder, she would say " yes, you do need it the most." but she would also kiss me on the neck when she said it, so you can see where we are at. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
I'll be waiting to see what your wife says when she reads your note.
SS
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