I've heard it all before. He's swore on a stack of Bibles and what have you and I still caught him in lies. He was still seeing her. This time is suppose to be different. He's really through with it all. Wants to move on. Tired of lying and deceiving. I have heard this all before and let my guard down, trusted him and got burned. I just don't know how to trust him at all. Do I just love him as hard as I can but let him come and go as he pleases and hope that he wakes up and realizes what he has at home? where and how do you begin? Do you try to turn the feelings off and let things happen? I try to believe him but I just don't. I know I must if we are going to work on this. Sometimes I just shutdown and say I don't care what he does but I do. I am sooo scared of who and what he is doing when he goes out. He swears that lifestyle is long gone that he is ready for peace and happiness with me. How do I even begin?

Trust is his responsibility to earn.

<small>[ November 22, 2002, 04:39 PM: Message edited by: whippit ]</small>

Hi SC4H,

When your H is acting in an untrustworthy manner, then you shouldn't trust him.

Are you and your H in MC? Have you taken a look at all of the articles here on the MB web site?

I'm so sorry that you are hurting so much right now... and I can definitely understand how you're feeling, since I've been through much of what you're going through right now.

Read the articles here and try to find a good MC... if your H isn't willing to read or go to MC with you, then at least do these things for yourself...

Semper Fi,
RIF90